The church is where we loose our individualism and selfish ambition.
We don't have a private agenda. We get free from all that in community. Many of the commands of the New Testament can only be obeyed in the context of the local church. We have to loose our life. But we do that in the stuff of fellowshiping with the people you don't initially like. Its not just a noble thought when your hands are raised and you worship. No, its when someone says "No, you are not on that list" or "No you can't lead worship next week"
Adrian Warnock's notes on Terry Virgo