"Community is not just being “nice.” True community involves being in a bad mood and still being pleasant to others. Community means asking for help. To be in community means to be in need. To feel other peoples’ pain, that’s community. To think more about what others need, that’s community. Community involves crying and looking foolish in front of others. To be in community means to be uncomfortable at times. Community involves risking our image. Community is not just eating together. Community is not seeing people at church. Community is not saying, “Fine” when asked how you are doing. To be in community involves using your phone a lot.
To experience community is to arrange one’s life in such a way that fellow members of the church are seen not as a burden to deal with, but friends with which to do life."
The Journey, St Loius - Community (read the whole thing here)